July 03, 2008

A Growing Awareness-Post Abortion Syndrome Among Men

The new issue of The Knights of Columbus, "Columbia" magazine, has a couple of great articles on men and abortion. The feature article interviews Vicki Thorn, founder of  Project Rachel. Vicki, along with the Knights, will be hosting another men's conference in Sept of this year in Chicago. http://www.menandabortion.info/


As many of you know, Father Mariusz, Fr George and I tweeked the "Entering Canaan" ministry to have days especially for post abortive men. With the help of some great guys from the ministry, we were able to design a day specifically for them. There was no doubt many issues were different, and although I had heard the men involved in our regular days, I was soon to find out their sharing was completely different when with other men.

Columbia actually covered our Men's Days in January 2007 . Unfortunately, it is not online but you can order a copy from the Knights.We just completed our third year and the word is getting out there.

I am so happy that men are finally coming forward, healing and claiming their rights!

If you have a chance to, grab a copy...it is well worth the read.http://www.kofc.org/un/publications/columbia/index.cfm

July 02, 2008

Repeat Teen Self-Cutters Likely to Engage in Risky Sex

"The associations between frequent cutting, sexual risk and low self-restraint provide clues to the forces that underlie this repeated behavior and point us in the right direction for future research to better understand this troubling and self-destructive phenomenon," lead study author Dr. Larry K. Brown

I am not a doctor and I can give Dr Brown some answers...is this world going mad? At 11 year sold I was probably still playing with Barbie dolls...kids are not allowed to be kids anymore...everything is sexual...we have stolen their innocence.

After reading this article I could not help wondering how many of them had had abortions...

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_65806.html


Repeat Teen Self-Cutters Likely to Engage in Risky Sex

Only 39% said they used condoms consistently in previous 90 days, study findsHealthDay Kevin McKeever Friday, June 13, 2008

HealthDay news imageFRIDAY, June 13 (HealthDay News) -- Children who are frequent self-cutters are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior, a new study says.

People who have cut themselves at least three times used condoms less often during sex, were more likely to share cutting instruments and had less self-restraint in general than teens who only cut themselves once or twice, according to the report in the June issue of the Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics.

"The associations between frequent cutting, sexual risk and low self-restraint provide clues to the forces that underlie this repeated behavior and point us in the right direction for future research to better understand this troubling and self-destructive phenomenon," lead study author Dr. Larry K. Brown, of the Bradley Hasbro Children's Research Center, said in a prepared statement.

The findings came from analyzing questionnaires completed by more than 100 children, ages 11 to 18, with a history of cutting who were in intensive psychiatric treatment programs. None of the participants reported having HIV infection. Approximately 39 percent engaged in frequent cutting, and nearly three-quarters of these frequent cutters were girls.

Just 39 percent of frequent cutters who were sexually active said they used condoms consistently in the past 90 days -- nearly half that of infrequent cutters. Frequent cutters were four times more likely to share their cutting instruments than the other cutters.

"Although it appears that infrequent cutters are more 'experimental' and more like their peers who do not cut, teens who cut themselves frequently should be referred for additional psychiatric evaluation to address their sexual risk behaviors and minimize their HIV risk," Brown said.

June 30, 2008

Abortions for under-14 girls have soared by 21 per cent


The number of abortions among underage girls soared last year, figures show.

A 10 per cent rise in terminations among under-16s took the total above 4,000.

Overall, abortions hit a new record of more than 200,000 as it was revealed that half of all pregnancies in under-18s ended in a termination.

There were 4,376 pregnancies ended by abortion for girls who were legally too young to have sex. Of these, 163 were under 14, a rise of 21 per cent on the 2006 figure of 135.

YOU CAN READ THE REST HERE:

http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/news/article-1027672/Abortions-14-girls-soared-21-cent.html


It is crazy that some people actually believe more sex education will help the problem. The problem is sex education,  sex is everywhere..at 14 I had no clue! The poor kids today are not allowed their innocence

Check out this from the Elliot Institute

http://www.afterabortion.org/

Is Having an Unplanned Birth
Worse for Teens Than Abortion?

 

Editor's Note: The following article originally appeared in The Post-Abortion Review in 2006.

 

With the recent news of a rash of pregnancies among girls at a high school in Massachusetts, it seems everyone is agreeing that teen pregnancy is a problem. But are teens who abort better off than teens who carry an "unwanted" pregnancy to term?

 

Not according to a study published in  the Journal of Youth and Adolescence. The study found that adolescent girls who abort unintended pregnancies are five times more likely to seek subsequent help for psychological and emotional problems compared to their peers who carry "unwanted" pregnancies to term.1


Dr. Priscilla Coleman, a research psychologist at Bowling Green State University, also found that adolescents who had abortions were over three times more likely to report subsequent trouble sleeping and nine times more likely to report subsequent marijuana use.


The results were compiled after examining 17 other control variables, like prior mental health history and family factors, that might also influence subsequent mental health.
 

The data was drawn from a federally-funded longitudinal study of adolescents from throughout the U.S. who participated in two series of interviews in 1995 and 1996. About 76 percent of girls who had abortions and 80 percent of girls who gave birth were between the ages of 15 and 19 during the survey, with the remainder being younger.
 

This study is particularly important because it examines pregnancy "wantedness," in addition to a large number of other control variables.

 

Over the last several years, numerous studies have conclusively linked higher rates of mental illness and behavioral problems associated with abortion compared to childbirth. But abortion advocates have generally dismissed these findings, insisting that while women who abort may fare worse than women who give birth to planned children, they may fare better than the important subgroup of women who carry unintended pregnancies to term. Coleman's study addresses this argument and shows that the facts don’t support abortion advocates’ speculations.
 

Higher Risk Factors for Teens
 

According to the Alan Guttmacher Institute, which tracks abortion statistics throughout the U.S., about a quarter of the abortions that take place each year are performed on girls younger than 20.
 

Previous studies have found that younger abortion patients may be more likely to experience difficulties coping after abortion compared to older women. One reason behind this may be that teens are more likely to be pressured into unwanted abortions or to undergo abortions later in pregnancy, which carry a greater risk of physical and psychological complications.


A 2004 Medical Science Monitor study of women who had abortions found that 64 percent of American women reported that they felt pressured into abortion.2 Coleman said that for teens, the pressure probably comes from the fact that they are more likely to be perceived as unready to be parents and that abortion is often seen by those around them as the best solution.
 

"When women feel forced into abortion by others or by life circumstances, negative post-abortion outcomes become more common," she wrote. "Adolescents are generally much less prepared to assume the responsibility of parenthood and are [therefore] the recipients of pressure to abort."


Coleman pointed out that, while having a child as a teen may be problematic, "the risks of terminating seem to be even more pronounced."
 

Other studies comparing outcomes for abortion versus delivery of unintended pregnancies have found higher rates of clinical depression, anxiety, and substance abuse among women who abort, while studies that did not look only at unplanned pregnancies also found that women who aborted are at increased risk for suicidal behavior, psychiatric problems, symptoms of post-traumatic stress, and sleep disorders, which are often linked to trauma.
 

While previous studies have often been criticized for methodological shortcomings, studies that have come out in the last several years have been designed to address those problems and have gone through vigorous scrutiny from peer-review panels before publication.
 

"The scientific evidence is now strong and compelling," Coleman stated. "Abortion poses more risks to women than giving birth."
 

While there has been a long-standing assumption that such problems are related to mental health problems that existed before abortion, a large-scale study conducted in New Zealand last year found that this wasn’t the case.3
 

The standard theory has been that women who have problems coping after abortion were probably already mentally unstable and therefore more likely to be even worse off if they continued the pregnancy.
 

The researchers in New Zealand thought that their study would confirm this theory, so they specifically controlled for pre-existing mental health problems. What they found, however, was that women who were mentally stable before abortion were still more likely to experience mental health problems after abortion.
 

More Research Needed
 

Although the pregnancy rate among American teens has dropped steadily in the past few decades, among developed countries the U.S. still has the highest rates of teen pregnancy and childbirth.
 

In her paper, Coleman highlighted a need for additional research on this issue. She pointed out that while "hundreds of thousands" of teens experience an unintended pregnancy each year, her study is one of only a few to examine the impact of abortion on women versus the impact of carrying to term, all of which have indicated worse outcomes associated with abortion.
 

Coleman and other researchers in this area have pointed out that medical and mental health professionals need to be attuned to the risks of abortion and present women and teens with accurate information about the physical and psychological effects of the procedure.
 

The findings that are emerging show that abortion leads to negative outcomes for many women, regardless of whether the pregnancy was planned or wanted. In fact, not a single study has ever shown statistically significant benefits associated with abortion compared to birth. In terms of maximizing women’s health and well-being, the scientific evidence overwhelmingly indicates that birth is preferable to abortion.
 

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This article originally appeared in The Post-Abortion Review, Vol. 14(3), July-Sept. 2006.

 

For more information on teens and abortion, including a free downloadable fact sheet, click here.

 

Citations

 

1. PK Coleman, “Resolution of Unwanted Pregnancy During Adolescence Through Abortion Versus Childbirth: Individual and Family Predictors and Psychological Consequences,” Journal of Youth and Adolescence (2006).

2. VM Rue, et. al., "Induced abortion and traumatic stress: A preliminary comparison of American and Russian women" Medical Science Monitor 10(10): SR5-16 (2004).

3. DM.Fergusson, et. al., “Abortion in young women and subsequent mental health,” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 47(1): 16-24 (2006).
 

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Time for Rest countdown

Once again I will be going on my yearly retreat in Santa Barbara, CA, with The Families of Nazareth Movement.This is the group who with the "In the Arms of MAry Foundation" promotes the spirituality of SC BIela, author of "In the Arms of MAry", The Two PIllars" and other wonderful books.
http://www.inthearmsofmary.org/index.asp

The retreat is held at an old mission there. Aside from Santa Barbara itself being beautiful, the mission grounds are amazing .

This years theme is "Reconciliation: The Sacrament of Mercy"

I will be gone from June 11th, returning June 21st.
here is a link to the FNM
http://www.familiesofnazareth.us/index.php

Of course, my side kick Mary will be taking care of referrals in my absence....

June 26, 2008

Women's Feelings after Abortion

I must admit, reading the follow on the National Abortion Federations website http://www.prochoice.org/about_abortion/facts/safety_of_abortion.html

left me feeling pretty angry. It is amazing how they want to blame our grief and other emotions on anything but the fact that we lost our children and in fact participated in their deaths. I have underlined some things and commented in italics throughout...it is time to stand up for ourselves and our unborn children. Enough is enough...don't tell me how I feel and why..I know how I feel and why...

Women's Feelings after Abortion

Women have abortions for a variety of reasons, but in general they choose abortion because a pregnancy at that time is in some way wrong for them. Such situations can cause a great deal of distress, and although abortion may be the best available option, the circumstances that led to the problem pregnancy may continue to be upsetting.  (while this may be true, it is not only the circumstances that are upsetting)

Some women may find it helpful to talk about their feelings with a family member, friend, or counselor. Feelings of loss or of disappointment, resulting, for example, from a lack of support from the spouse or partner, should not be confused with regret about the abortion. Women who experience guilt or sadness after an abortion usually report that their feelings are manageable. (who are they to tell us if we regret it or not and that the loss of our children is not an issue?)


The American Psychological Association has concluded that there is no scientifically valid support or evidence for the so-called "post-abortion syndrome" of psychological trauma or deep depression. The most frequent response women report after having ended a problem pregnancy is relief, and the majority of women are satisfied that they made the right decision for themselves. (See Abortion Myths: Post-Abortion Syndrome.) (what they fail to mention here is that the APA board who did the "research" is made up of mostly pro abortion women who also do work with major pro abortion groups, so no big surprise here. The APA has been called to task on this but as far as I know nothing has been done)

'If you are post abortive, reading this and feeling guilt, sadness, loss etc, you are not crazy like they would have you believe. Your feelings are legitimate. For too long the pro abortion groups have been telling us what we can and cannot feel, what we are allowed to experience. This has left many of us confused and feeling like there is something wrong with us while in fact, it is normal to feel the loss and grief. Acknowledge your feelings and get help from people who truly care about you. You can get through this with the right help!


June 25, 2008

The deafening Silence

I have spoken many times of the "deafening silence" of pro abortion groups when it comes to harm to women and other atrocities that happen at clinics..this is  one of those things..warning....very upsetting


Check out Jill Staneks blog here http://www.jillstanek.com/
Eyewitness: Tiller abortionist Shelley Sella stabbed live baby to death

God have mercy.....

June 23, 2008

Here are the Mercy Rays.....

Here is the picture...as I said below, we each wrote our name on a heart and pasted it in onto the Divine Mercy Rays...I love the way it looks like our hearts are moving up into His, but also that He is pouring HIs heart out on us.....



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Rest In the Rays of My Mercy

"Rest in the Rays of My Mercy" was the theme for our closing retreat of the year for "Entering Canaan", the post abortion ministry I do with The Sisters of Life. Because of the sisters home visits and community events, we do not meet in July & August, although Lumina continues throughout the summer.

When I picked the theme, I had no idea how much I needed and would enjoy that rest myself!!!!!
We go each year to Camp St Joseph, a camp site in Millbrook NY whose use was given to the Sisters. It is always a beautiful end to the year in this tranquil atmosphere, and all who attend love every minute.

Part of the "resting" consisted in writing our names on a heart and pasting it in the rays of His Mercy in the Divine Mercy image.  I will post some pictures of  this later, but here are a couple of beautiful upstate NY



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Sr Mary Claire & Br Andrew, CFR provided our music
and we were especially blessed to be led by Fr Mariusz Koch, CFR

June 13, 2008

Happy Father's Day

And for those men who suffer from abortion,

A prayer from our men's ministry

Good St Joseph, spouse of Mary

Guide and protector of the Holy Family

You trusted God and opened yourself to receive the graces

You needed to care for Jesus, Our Merciful Savior.

 

In our lack of faith we rejected our children.

Whether we promoted the abortion, or abandoned the mother,

We know that the graces were always there for us

As they were when you took Mary as your wife.

 

Some others of us did not want the abortion,

Or were ignorant of the existence

of life until it was too late

Help us to imitate you in forgiveness, obtain for us the grace to “divorce”

The mother of our child quietly by showing the forgiveness your Son desires

 

St Joseph, we are sorry for the lack of trust

That caused us to abort our children,

or the pride and anger that does not allow us to forgive.

Intercede for us St Joseph, and obtain for us the graces we need

To live as Christ calls us

 

We know our children are in your care

Lead us in a life of love and fidelity to the will of your Son

That we may join you in heaven

And share eternal life with our children

Praising God forever for the mercy and love

He has shown us.

Amen.

June 12, 2008

The Promise

Post abortive or not..we all have temptations to despair and we all need to recognize faith has nothing to do with "feelings"

This reflection is by Br Jeremiah, CFR,  who worked for a few years doing the mens ministry with Fr Mariusz, CFR and I, and is now in seminary. We are very blessed to have him preparing for the priesthood..please keep him in your prayers....
http://www.franciscanfriars.com/fr_glenn_letters/frglenn1102.html