Today is the Feast of the Archangels...I know that I always felt solace during my healing in thinking of St Michale and how he would protect me in the battle of healing from my abortion. Whenever I felt particularly depressed and fighting my demons, whether they be my low self esteem, my self hate or lack of worth, my anger at others, or any of the million other issues surrounding my abortion experience that I had to work through, I would think of St Michael and find comfort.
This week is loaded with my favorite Saints...Therese, who is my namesake, and to whom my aunt prayed for years for me, the guardian angels, St Francis and St Faustina.I often forget the humanness of the saints and what they had to suffer. They are such a great example of perservering and trusting in God.
Like them may we never waver in our trust in the love and mercy of God who came to call sinners...
"Think everything, say everything, do everything for love of God and neighbor. Anything that stands in the way of this is not of God. That is how you can know if you are in God's Will. Always-always" Mother Teresa
Sometimes we canfind it hard to know God's will in our life. we get upset or distracted by things that happen and oftentimes find ourselves doubting everything and searching for what we should do. I find the above quote to be so simple and true. A good reminder for me to always keep my focus in the right place...
May, we filed an amicus brief with the United States Supreme Court in
Acuna v. Turkish. We are excited to report that on Monday,
September 29, the Court will consider whether to take this important
case. We expect the Court to announce its decision the following
This case and our brief are important for two very significant
brief provides substantial scientifically reliable data
that the Supreme Court said it lacked in the 2007 Partial-Birth Abortion
ruling. In its ruling, the Court acknowledged --- for the first time --- the
detrimental effects of abortion on women.However, the Court
stated that it had “no reliable data” concerning these effects.This
opened the door for us to provide the Court with substantial scientific evidence
showing the harmful effects of abortion. You can review our brief and the
evidence provided in the extensive research by Dr. Priscilla Coleman (in
Appendix B) on our website at www.trinitylegalcenter.org.
New Jersey Supreme Court ruling in the Acuna casecondones a
physician lying to a pregnant woman! The U.S. Supreme Court’s action on this
case could significantly impact state laws, particularly informed consent
requirements. Specifically, the issue is whether a woman can properly exercise
her constitutional right to decide whether to have an abortion if the
abortionist provides false and misleading information. To obtain informed
consent, a physician must provide accurate and truthful
brief represents Sandra Cano, who was Mary “Doe” in Doe v. Bolton,
the companion case to Roe v. Wade that legalized abortion until the day
of birth; the American Association of Pro-Life OB-Gyns; and, Alveda King
(niece of Dr. Martin Luther King) and other post-abortive women from across the
We ask for your prayers for this case and our brief as the United States
Supreme Court is in conference next Monday, September 29.
9,000 cases are appealed to the Supreme Court each year, but the Court only
takes about 90. If the Court takes the case, we are prepared to file another
amicus brief on the merits of the case. Even if the Court decides not to take
this case, our brief provided the evidence it said it lacked in 2007. We will
also be filing amicus briefs in other cases to the Court as opportunities
invite you to visit our recently updated website. You can submit comments at the
bottom of the Home page. If you would like your story featured on the website,
please let us know.
For questions or
comments about this update, contact: Anne Newman,
Director Policy and Communications
"Tis but thy name
that is my enemy. What's in a name? That which we will call a rose. By any
other word would smell as sweet."
goes the dialog in the famous balcony scene of Shakespeare’s Romeo &
Juliet. I think of that scene when I am aware of how much I do not like to be
referred to as “pro life” or “anti abortion.”
I have tried to make
sense of my aversion, especially since, after all, I am 100% pro life.
Perhaps it comes from my
frustration in being a post abortive woman.I have always felt to some degree or another “stuck” in the middle of
the debate, not because of the issue of life itself, but because of the
understanding, or lack of understanding, there seems to be on both sides about
those who are post abortive.
Don’t get me wrong it has
improved greatly and continues to improve, and I certainly do not blame
anyone…how would anyone know? It has been such a deep, dark , secret of shame
that no one spoke of for years and years, so, it is not frustration at people,
but the issue in general.
It may be because article
upon article from the main stream media portrays a plot by the “anti-abortioners”
in making it seem like abortion
hurts women. The new head of the American Psychiatric Association, Nada Stotland, is a feminist who is also on the board of Physicians for
Reproductive Health and Choice. In a recent article on Medical News Today, Stotland
says abortion is one of the most common surgeries in the
according to the Times, physicians
have not seen an epidemic of trauma in women or men. Antiabortion groups have
"succeeded in convincing the American public" that abortion harms
You get the picture.
I have to wonder if
Stotland has been under a rock, since in recent years more and more women and
men are speaking out about the harm abortion has done to them. Not “anti
abortion” people, but “post abortive” women and men. Those directly involved.
My aversion may also be
because in some pro life circles we are still condemned by those who do not
chose to understand why abortion happens. They condemn the sinner instead of
the sin without even knowing the circumstances surrounding the personal
abortion. Not that it is ever right, abortion is never right, but we can
certainly understand how it can come to be. We are also told they are “saving
babies” when many times we could not even “save” our own baby.
Post abortive people are often
not acknowledged or given the opportunity to speak for ourselves and our
children. In some ways we have been aborted too, not only by people who may
have pressured us to abort, but by a society who refuses to listen to what we
are saying. While I recognize many do not speak out because of shame and guilt,
there is a reluctance, especially by the media, to give us a voice…or at least
a sane voice.
But, in the end, I
realize it is not really any of the above reasons that cause me to hate being
called “pro life” or “anti abortion”. I hate being called those names because they
are too general. I have been touched by this war on life in a very personal way.
I have lost a son that I will not meet in this world. The name I truly want to
be called is “mom” by my unborn son Joshua. That says it all.
This Magic Moment
As politics tugs at tender wounds, help arrives.
By Kathryn Jean Lopez
‘No one knew.”
In a book perfect for the season in every way, including the title, Changed, Alex writes:
No one knew I was spinning out of control.
No one knew I was filled with anger and grief.
No one knew but me.
What Alex knew was that she “couldn’t stand to be alone with” herself. Just after graduating from college, she found out she was pregnant. Engaged, she wanted to have the baby but her fiancé didn’t.
Ken calmly explained that having a baby right now didn’t fit into our plans. He said we shouldn’t have a baby until we were married, had been working in our careers longer, and were in a better financial situation.
Practical Ken. “He tried to convince me that our relationship wouldn’t last if I didn’t have the abortion.”
“I thought that if I got it over with quickly — that if I had the abortion early enough in the pregnancy — then I’d be able to cope with it.” Alex went ahead with the abortion.
She immediately regretted it. “I felt the loss of our child from the core of my being. I grieved over my child — our child.”
The relationship didn’t survive the abortion.
It was at a business meeting where she started to confront her grief.
Sorry I haven't been posting much lately. Lots of events happening around here. The first was a dinner honoring Tony Felicissimo...a great guy who does tons of work for life and never speaks without including something for those out there who are post abortive.
Last night I went to the Fordham Forum on abortion by "Abortion Changes You". An outreach to those post abortive by Michaelene Fredenburg. Michaelene has designed the site http://www.abortionchangesyou.com/ which encourages work towards healing through activitys on the site as well as a list of resources in the persons area. It was good to hear Michaelene speak of the impact on others, dads, grandparents, siblings, friends etc, which is something I have been been bringing to the surface for years. Too many times the focus is just on the women when in fact abortion hurts everyone.
Abortion Changes you will also be doing a ad campaign on the NYC subways beginning in October encouraging people to go on their site. Please keep the campaign in prayer! Michaelene
Ran into Kevn Burke, co-founder of Rachel's Vineyard at the "Men & Abortion " conference. Her eis something he wrote about the Palin connector...
Sarah Palin-The Post Abortion Trig-ger?
Is there a connection between the criticisms of Vice
Presidential hopeful Sarah Palin and repressed post abortion grief?
The very personal and often uncharitable criticism of Vice
Presidential nominee Sarah Palin and her family evident in recent media
coverage, and the lack of support from many feminist and child advocacy
groups, may have a relationship to the collective grief, pain and guilt from
personal involvement in the abortion of an unborn child.
When an issue strikes at a deeply repressed sensitive wound in a person, often
the initial reaction is anger.
Every year in the
approximately 133,000 pregnant mothers will undergo routine pre-natal tests and
receive what is called “poor pre-natal diagnosis,” or PPD. This means
that their infant is afflicted with a chromosomal abnormality or a serious
defect in a vital organ.
With the increase
in genetic testing and fertility treatments there are growing numbers of
couples facing these difficult situations. More than 90 percent of
these pregnancies end in abortion.Studies indicate that more than 80percent of prenatal Down syndrome diagnoses end in abortion.Parents are often influenced
by doctors, therapists, friends and family to see these children not as a gift,
but rather a burden to be feared and eliminated.After abortion, the fallout from this loss
places a tremendous strain on a couple as they struggle to come to terms with
the shock and pain of their experience.
Phil Pedlikin, president of the Down Syndrome Association of Northern
Virginia, said the coverage of Sarah Palin as the mother of a child with Down
syndrome has been very mixed.
"We have found it frustrating that, even though
Governor Palin has never suggested it, quite the opposite really, the emphasis
of many reports has been on the 'burden' that she faces because her child has
Down syndrome. Also, she is sometimes portrayed as a hero because of this
additional 'burden.' We are not heroes because we have children with Down
syndrome. Our children are the heroes," Mr. Pedlikin said.(
Times, September 4, 2008)
Governor Palin has been clear that despite the challenges
Trig’s condition will present, she and her husband Todd joyfully celebrate the
gift of this precious life to their family.
But this very heartfelt, natural expression of love may be
striking at a deeply repressed and painful wound in our culture.
Seeing the Palin family, in a very visible public forum, with an
uncompromising and public pro life philosophy arouses deeply repressed feelings
in post abortive parents, as well as media members, counselors, health care
professionals, politicians and others who promote abortion rights, especially
the abortion of children with challenges such as Down syndrome.These powerful repressed feelings of grief,
guilt and shame can be deflected from the source of the wound (i.e., abortion)
and projected onto an often uncharitable focus upon the trigger of these
painful emotions…the Palin family.
We have also learned that Sarah's 17-year-old daughter
is pregnant and
will give birth to her son or daughter. This information has been
exploited to attack chastity programs and the alleged glamorization of
motherhood at the expense of contraception and abortion rights.But this completely misses a more crucial
issue that once again our society struggles to face.
If Bristol Palin had quietly aborted, Sarah Palin would have
been spared the politically untimely focus on this very personal family issue.The problem would have quietly gone
like countless post abortive women, would have paid a high price to protect her
mother from the political heat that her pregnancy brings to the
campaign. We know from our work with thousands of women who feel
pressured to abort for various reasons that she would surely suffer many
of the common post abortion symptoms; depression, promiscuity, drug and
alcohol abuse, sleep disorders and relational problems. But she
would have suffered in silence; no one would know her secret. No
one would acknowledge that she has reason to grieve or have symptoms after
abortion. Sarah Palin would have lost not only her precious
grandchild...she likely would have lost her daughter
to the silent ravages of post
The Palin family’s decision to once again affirm the value of the
unborn child, and support a decision to give life confronts the collective
grief, guilt and shame of all who have participated in any way in the death of
an unborn child.
What we can hope and pray is that Sarah Palin's story does not
continue to feed a disgraceful media feeding frenzy fueled by our post-abortive
culture and instead becomes a beacon of hope and healing. The experience
of the Palin familyoffers
encouragement to other families facing challenging circumstances to value the
gift of a child and to see the blessing and potential they represent, rather
than a burden to avoid at all costs.
It is important to make the distinction that to affirm the value
of the unborn in no way condemns those who have experienced the pain of
abortion. Rather, this presents
an opportunity to reach out to all who have been wounded by their participation
in abortion with love and compassion.We
must invite our post-abortive culture to leave the dead end road of anger and
personal attacks on families like the Palins.Instead, we need to travel the road of reconciliation, healing and peace
as we work together to build a culture of life for all Americans from conception
to natural death.
If you or someone
you love is hurting after abortion, visit Rachel’s Vineyard -Healing
The Pain of Abortion, One weekend at a Time www.rachelsvineyard.org
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co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard - A Post Abortion Healing Ministry of Priests for
Entering Canaan Entering Canaan is comprehensive post abortion ministry consisting of Day of Prayer & Healing, weekend Retreats and monthly Gatherings. It also includes a yearly "Mercy Renewal Retreat" which enables those involved in the ministry to come aside each year to grow more deeply in their healing and faith.
Lumina Hope & Healing After Abortion A post abortion ministry of Good Counsel, Inc., Lumina provides groups, retreat days, trainings, public speaking, & referrals to post abortion ministries, professional therapists and clergy.
Abortion Recovery International ARIN is an affiliate association, dedicated to connecting and assisting like-minded abortion recovery centers, programs and services; as well as individuals working within the field.
Ramah International Assistance for those hurting from post abortion syndrome through communication, resources, and local referrals.
Project Rachel The Catholic Church's healing ministry for those who have been involved in abortion.
National Office of Reconciliation and Healing A network of researchers and psychotherapeutic professionals working in the field within the U.S. and abroad, consulting on the formation of post-abortion support services within secular and religious settings.
Rachel's Vineyard Rachel's Vineyard retreats combines a unique and creative process for psychological and spiritual healing.
Safe Haven Ministries Safe Haven is a peer site for those who have had abortions to find comfort, hope, understanding, and healing.
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