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Advent

We have a Glorious Expectation....http://postabortionhelp.org/Newsletter/newsletter.html

Happy Thanksgiving!

O Give thanks unto the Lord; for he is good: because his MERCY endureth for ever.

bible - psalms 118:1 - king david

Reactions to Abortion and Subsequent Mental Health

"Fergusson found that women in this cohort who have had a single abortion and report feeling conflicted about it (i.e. most of these women) are roughly 80% more likely to develop a diagnosable mental illness than women who in similar circumstances carry their pregnancy to term.

In fact, extrapolating from the data, the authors suggest that at least 5% of the mental illness of women under 30 is ascribable to abortion."

But we already know this because we have lived it...you can read the rest here:

http://www.zenit.org/article-27613?l=english

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Men and Abortion

Interesting article written by Arthur B. Shostak, Ph.D, regarding men and abortion. I would love to have him come to one of our men's days...."More could be done to have the experience understood as "our abortion" rather than "her abortion." No Dr Shostak, not "our abortion", but "our baby".

No, I am NOT a "Rock."

On Abortion and Waiting Room Men

Were I asked to name the single pop tune that had the most to teach us, I would name "I am a Rock," even though it requires a keen grasp of irony.  On the face of it the Simon and Garfunkle tune offers a pernicious stereotype, a caricature of sealed off, bottled up males. Allowing for how this fits far too many Conon-like dunderheads, I contend it does not fit most American men- and the more we can do to move "many" to "most," the better.

If you want in-your-face evidence that a good many guys are not "rocks," spend a little time with over 500,000 males annually found in the waiting rooms of the nation's nearly 400 abortion clinics (about half of all abortion-seeking women generally have a man sitting by in the clinic or doctor's waiting room).  And if you want to help move "many" out and into the ranks of most (feeling) men, please join me in an on-going effort to reinvent the clinic experience of the waiting room men.

I have been there, both as one of them, and soon thereafter, as a sociologist trying to find out more about them (and thereby, about me).  To get deliberately ahead of the story below, what I found was moving and poignant, as might be expected.  But it was also exasperating and even infuriating, two outcomes that took me by surprise, and have me ever since eager to gain the support of feminist women in an urgent reform campaign.

Back in the 1970s, when "Nancy," a former lover, nervously called a month or so after we had broken up, I was shocked to learn she was pregnant, and we were going to have an abortion.  Both parts of that phone sentence knocked me over.  We had enjoyed an intimate two-year relationship, and I knew she had been on the pill before we met and throughout our live-in love affair.  What I did not know, "Nancy" softly explained, was that severe headaches had had her go off the pill, "just for a little time," and she had now resumed taking it after getting a better prescription.  Nor had I known that before calling to tell me "our" decision "Nancy" had taken several days to make up her mind alone about what to do about her pregnancy.

"Nancy" was quick to get me to promise that I would discuss this with no one, absolutely no one - and I was quick to agree.  Something inside told me this was a mistake, however, and over the years since I have realized over and again how true that was.  Scores of males I have interviewed since have told me I was the first person they had ever told of their part in an abortion months or even years before.  Many cried with the relief disclosure and processing makes possible.  We would sit in the back of a dinner in a booth I had "reserved" for an hour's interview, and still be there hours later, with crumbled kleenex tissues strewn about, and a sympathetic waitress hovering nearby to keep the coffee cups filled.

You can read the rest here:http://www.menandabortion.com/art_personal.html

Self Forgiveness

A tough one for many post abortive people....

Self Forgiveness

 

I need to learn my Lord to be

The person that’s inside of me

To accept it all…from inside out

To cherish what I’m all about

 

To know that through life’s walking days

I’m trying Lord to learn your ways

And if I falter on my way

Your love will always with me stay

 

And if you can still love me when

I fall and fall, time and again

Then love myself I must God too,

For to love myself is to trust in you.

 

So, though at times it is hard to see

The beauty that’s inside of me

I know that if you love me still

To love myself must be your will.

 

 

Away in a Manager

Roman Jaquez, one of the directors for "The Silent Fall" is also in the process of making a short film called "Away in the Manager".

Roman is looking for extras for the last scene of the film which will be filmed in Troy, NY, on Dec 12th. Anyone up for it? Know anyone who may go?

He is a great guy who is not afraid to take on the issues...I can promise it will be fun.  Pass it on..

http://www.romanjaquez.com/

I'm off

So here it is, I don't think the birds are up yet but I am. I am off to Glouster Catholic High School (over 2 hours away) to speak at an assembly this morning.

Please Pray I find the place and that many hearts are touched!

Giving Thanks

Since this is Thanksgiving week, I thought I would especially thank God for all the wonderful men and women who have come forward since the Divine Mercy Congress. It is such a gift to me to share in their suffering and share with them the Mercy of God.

here is an excerpt from one of the articles from NACOM:

A Continent Shifts Towards God by Dan Valenti

...Susan Buck of Silver Springs, Md., works in human resources for the executive branch of the federal government, attached to the White House. Her journey to NACOM marked an action point, one of no return:

"I know very, very well the depths of God's mercy and forgiveness of God," she says. "He forgave me for a very bad sin when I didn't think forgiveness was possible. Now I want to turn away from mistakes of the past and learn more about how I can extend mercy in my life going forward, to all that I meet. That's why I came. To prepare myself for what only God knows."

Susan said she had a strong and undeniable feeling "that tremendous graces would be coming to us [pilgrims] through the speakers at this Congress if we are open to them." Asked mid-way during the day if that had in fact been borne out, she smiled, pouring radiance through her eyes.

"Oh, yes," she said. "Oh yes."

'She Spoke Directly to My Heart'
Susan referred particularly to the witness of Theresa Bonopartis, who described the utter sense of loneliness and abandonment that haunted her when, as a teen, she aborted a baby boy — a saline abortion in which the baby burns to death in the womb. An existential and spiritual dread pressed upon her soul for years, until she found the courage to take God up on His promise to forgive even the most heinous of sins and the most despicable of sinners. That forgiveness led to reparation and to the establishment of a life of ministry to other women and men dealing with post-abortive trauma.

"She spoke directly to my heart," Susan said of Bonopartis. She also said she's now ready to take action to help others, in the way the NACOM testimonials spoke about.

You can read the entire article here..thank you Susan!: http://mercycongress.org/story.php?NID=3739

More deafening Silence

NARAL, Planned Parenthood etc..I do not hear you? 

Fox News coverage of an abortion doctor on "Shame on You". Thank you Fox. 

As upsetting as this is, it not uncommon...(warning, this is disturbing)

Doctor Banned in Florida Working in New York

Updated: Wednesday, 11 Nov 2009, 11:48 PM EST
Published : Wednesday, 11 Nov 2009, 10:02 PM EST

MYFOXNY.COM - The case made national headlines: A botched abortion in Florida and an elaborate cover-up. The physician involved -- Dr. Pierre Renelique -- was banned from practicing medicine there. But nine months after Florida revoked his license, he is seeing patients in the Bronx. Fox 5's Arnold Diaz tracked him down for an exclusive report.

WARNING: Some information in this report is graphic.

http://www.myfoxny.com/dpp/news/shame/091111-doctor-banned-in-florida-working-in-new-york

Abortion everywhere

Abortion here, abortion there, abortion is just everywhere! You cannot pick up a paper or turn on a news program without it being the center of a discussion. Try being a post abortive person who wants to remain in denial. It is impossible with all that has been happening lately! Perhaps that is why we have seen an increase in the number of those reaching out for help.

Between the health care bill, all the recent articles about violence to women for refusing to abort, and the "normal" everyday controversy surrounding it, it has brought to the surface for many what they have worked hard to forget. I always describe it as walking around with garbage in a bag on your bag. After a while it just becomes too heavy, and you either have to deal with it and start chucking it out, or you will be lugging it forever, unable to look up and truly live your life in peace.

Denial leaves us trapped. As much as we can pretend something does not bother us, our bodies know that this is not true and the impact comes out in many different ways. In addictions, poor relationships, and of course abortion connectors,( responding to things in the present because of your experience).

You have to wonder, if abortion is the solution they want everyone to believe it is, why are so many people having a hard time, and why is there increasing controversy?

Because the truth of abortion is finally coming out. Life does not return to the way it was before we took the lives of our children. We are hurt, families and relationships are hurt and destroyed. Kids are let feeling guilty for being alive while a sibling died..I can go on and on. with 50 million abortions in our country, the garbage is overflowing and everyone can see it in their families.

So, if the garbage on your back is surfacing and too heavy to carry, please know you do not have have to carry it alone. There are people ready to help you get rid of it. People who have been there and who know what it is like to heal and have joy again.Reach out!

http://postabortionhelp.org/Resources/resources.html