It is filled with half truths, misconceptions and just plain lies, and puts the health of women at risk, never mind the death of their children.
Are the women at this magazine that misinformed or do they just not care about women?
This one in particular makes me cringe
Myth 10: Many women who have had abortions are traumatized and suffer from “post-abortion stress syndrome.”
Fact: There is no scientific evidence,
or the observable reality of 33 years of legal abortion in the United
States, to support the idea that having an abortion is any more
dangerous to a woman’s long-term mental health than delivering and
parenting a child she did not intend to have or placing a baby for
Oh really? the people at MS. need to speak to the thousands of women we know
"If you forgive men their
your heavenly Father will forgive you.
But if you do not forgive men,
neither will your Father forgive your transgressions."It can be so hard to forgive if
we have been coerced into abortion or if those around us did not support us. Just as we often feel we can never be
forgiven, we also often times feel like we cannot forgive people who may have
abandoned us or forced us to abort our unborn children. We think, how can
anyone expect you to do that?Yet, that is exactly what God
asks us to do. Forgive those who “trepass againstus”.I remember how hard it was for
me to forgive my dad who pressured me into abortion as a teen. I had to make up
mind that I was going to do it, and not once, but over and over and over again.
I had to show him the mercy that God had shown me.Chances are, my unforgiveness never really
affected my dad, but it tormented me because it separated me fromGod’s peace.Not easy I admit, and without
constant prayer and the grace of God, impossible. But with His help, in time, I
was able to forgive, and that forgiveness gave me peace because I was doing
Gods will. “It is not easy to love with a deep
love, which lies in the authentic gift of self. This love can only be learned
by penetrating the mystery of God's love. Looking at him, being one with his
fatherly heart, we are able to look with new eyes at our brothers and sisters,
with an attitude of unselfishness and solidarity, of generosity and
forgiveness. All this is mercy!” ( Pope JPII Homily at canonization of St
Faustina) I learned to feel sorrow for my
dad instead of anger as my relationship with God grew...I learned to show him
the mercy God had shown me, instead of judging him. It took years, but it
happened, and in the end God allowed me to be an instrument, through my
forgiveness, not my anger, to bring my dad back to Him.
Today think about who you need to forgive in your
abortion experience and offer some prayers for that intention.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
patient, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against
such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have
crucified the flesh with its passion and desires. If we live by the spirit, let
us also walk by the Spirit.
a little over three weeks we will celebrate the Feast of Pentecost.
of us have experienced the lack of peace, joy, love, patience, self-control,
etc that came as a result of our abortions. Some, have reached a healing that
reflects those gifts, at least at times. Others are still struggling with the
temptations of the world and with the temptation to despair regarding our
abortions. Our TV’s, radios and print sources are filled with sex and violence
and a disregard for life including our own. It is difficult to change behaviors
we may have had for years, especially if friends and family do not understand.
struggles are you still experiencing?
do you do when you experience them?
you have progressed in your healing, what did you change or what do you do
differently now than you did before?
you understand that lifestyles may have to change to experience peace?
people express a desire to become pregnant again after an abortion…if you feel
this way, what is different about your life that makes you think you would not
chose abortion again?
you willing to change, or do you want healing but continue to live the same
lifestyle you did before?
so, what are the fruits of this lifestyle?
your relationships with others changed or remained the same?
FOR THE SEVEN GIFTS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT
O Lord Jesus Christ Who, before ascending
into heaven did promise to send the Holy Spirit to finish Your work in the
souls of Your Apostles and Disciples, deign to grant the same Holy Spirit to me
that He may perfect in my soul, the work of Your grace and Your love. Grant me
the Spirit of Wisdom that I may despise the perishable things of this world and
aspire only after the things that are eternal, the Spirit of Understanding to
enlighten my mind with the light of Your divine truth, the Spirit of Counsel
that I may ever choose the surest way of pleasing God and gaining heaven, the
Spirit of Fortitude that I may bear my cross with You and that I may overcome
with courage all the obstacles that oppose my salvation, the Spirit of
Knowledge that I may know God and know myself and grow perfect in the science
of the Saints, the Spirit of Piety that I may find the service of God sweet and
amiable, and the Spirit of Fear that I may be filled with a loving reverence
towards God and may dread in any way to displease Him. Mark me, dear Lord with
the sign of Your true disciples, and animate me in all things with Your Spirit.
As the mom of both an Iraqi veteran and an aborted
baby, I found Aspen Bakers article for the Huffington Post Overcoming Stigma: Dead NFL Players,
Suicidal Veterans, and Emotional Women a confusing piece with
lots of conflicting statements. Ms. Baker is the founder of Exhale,
http://www.4exhale.org/ an after abortion counseling talk line. I have
read Aspen’s article several times and still cannot really piece together her
logic as it relates to trauma while she is, at the same time, adverse to
“Abortion Recovery Month” because it insinuates that abortion has negative
emotional impacts.I would love to sit down and speak to Aspen some day.
I think we share a lot of the same feelings, although our ultimate conclusions
are on opposite sides of the spectrum. I applaud her confrontation of the pro
choice movement when it comes to mental “well being” after abortion. It is
true; the pro choice movement still does not have a public platform in support
of women’s well being after abortion. That is because they mostly refuse to
admit abortion can have adverse affects. The legality of abortion has become
more important to them than the women they propose to care about. While their
denial is part of the stigma problem which Aspen does recognize, I know the
reality. The stigma of abortion is the result of the act of abortion, not
due to some other factor. Unlike PTSD from war or an injury by football (both
accidental consequences) abortion is a definitive choice, and that choice is
taking the life of your unborn child. With all the scientific evidence,
everyone knows this, and everyone knows someone who is suffering because of an
abortion. It is not natural for a mom to participate in the death of her
child. Ms. Baker claims her post abortive counseling, Exhale, is non
judgmental, neither pro choice nor pro life but “pro voice”, but if you really
read through its philosophy, the pain of abortion is blamed on something else.
It is religion, the media, social factors,or your relationships, etc., that are
causing you pain, not the abortion itself. It is almost as if they are trying
to take the cause out of the equation, then you do not have to choose a side in
the abortion issue, nor do you have to look honestly at what you have done. But the confusion grows. Aspen does not like “Abortion
Recovery Month” or the New York subway ads “Abortion Changes You”, because she
feels they depict a negative emotional impact after an abortion. I then have to
ask, why you would need a “well-being" month if everything is so, well,
“well”? Don’t get me wrong, I certainly agree abortion can
cause PTSD. In fact, I know firsthand after a saline abortion I had as a
teenager. Seeing your dead, burnt son in a bed next to you and knowing you
consented to this horrible act is enough to cause PTSD, but perhaps the biggest
cause was the denial of my experience by people trying to blame my pain on
everything but the fact that I had participated in the death of my son. It is
hard for me to understand how Aspen can see so clearly the trauma of war yet is
blind to the trauma that is abortion itself. Women deserve more
than an opportunity to be “pro voice”. They deserve the facts before, not after
abortion, and they deserve to be healed. Ms. Baker is looking to remove the
stigma and make abortion completely acceptable. God forbid we ever make the
death of my son or the millions of other children acceptable. My “voice”
deserves to be heard too. The movement-building initiative Aspen speaks of is
only pro “their” voice, as evidenced by the vandalism of the New York subway
ads. Those suffering from abortion that saw those ads and could relate to those
feelings deserve to get the help they choose, while having their voices and
experiences heard, too. Having done
post abortion work for many years, I am not ashamed to say I am anti abortion.
I, like countless other women have found the abortion propaganda filled with
lies. Having seen my dead, aborted son laying next to me after a saline
abortion, no one, no religion, no morals, no person needs to tell me what
abortion is and what it does, or why I felt the way I did.Ms Baker and others
may not want a “recovery” that addresses God, but countless women do and they deserve
to be able to find that instead of having someone simply discount the subway
ads because the church is one of those who offers healing. My Catholic
faith did not make me feel guilty about my abortion; seeing my dead son made me
feel guilty. In fact it was quite the opposite. I would even venture to say, that the stigma of abortion has been taken away for me. I do not care what anyone thinks because I know what God has done for me. I did not
seek to make the stigma disappear by forcing others to accept what I did or looking
outside of myself, but instead inside of myself. The stigma left me through my
relationship with God and the forgiveness and healing he gave. It was my faith that brought
me peace and healing.
and Attack” is the agenda of “choice”, and on this Aspen and I agree, but
appears in some ways to be Aspen’s agenda, too. Still, I actually think we
share many of the same feelings. Hey Aspen, I would be open to talk when ever
you want. Why not give me a call ?
Time magazine has a piece on the pill in its May 3rd edition marking its 50th anniversary.
Here is an excerpt from the article:
The Pill made sex outside of marriage far easier to conceal,
lowering the social cost of extramarital and premarital sex. In 1966 U S. News & World Report would worry openly that the Pill might lead to sexual anarchy.
Nancy Gibbs puts a particular emphasis on the role of the Pill in
enabling modern feminism. She cites National Organization for Women
president Terry O’Neill: “There is a straight line between the Pill and
the changes in family structure we now see.Women could now enter the workplace without fear of a career
interrupted by pregnancy. Employers “lost a primary excuse for closing
their ranks to women.””
Wow! amazingly we agree with NOW, only not in the sense they say...it has not lowered the social cost of extra marital pre marital affairs, it has increased the cost with the death of millions of babies the increased use of women as objects and the destruction of millions of women because of abortion.
The family structure has changed, but far from making it better it has destroyed families...leaving the family unit forever changed and not for the better.
I have not read the entire article yet...it is too early in the morning. I do know many women do not realize the pill is a an abortifacent, or the damage it can cause to them physically.
"This week, we’ve heard from a number of women who were due to have
travel to the UK this week for terminations, including a very young
teen who is extremely close to the 24 week time limit for abortions in
the UK. She had to miss her appointment earlier this week and is now
coming next week by ferry and train – a roundtrip journey of more than
24 hours. Her mother solely supports her and her siblings with a part
time job and now has to cover costs of £2,300 (procedure + money lost
on cancelled flights + last minute ferry and train tickets)."
So goes a blog post I read from an "abortion support Group" in the UK looking for money to get a young teenager there for an abortion at 24 weeks!
It makes me so mad that they actually think they are doing this girl a favor! Please pray that something happens and she cannot get the abortion. What she does today will surely impact her for the rest of her life....
I got this note from one of our moms who aborted because of an adverse diagnosis and am printing it with her consent, because like everything else she trusts me enough to share, she is right on...
Theresa. I read your post this morning about Exhale. I cringe whenever I hear
that name. I never had any personal contact with anyone from this organization,
but I easily could have if I continued to follow the path encouraged by the
medical establishment. I call them the trio, as comprised of my obstetrician,
the abortionist disguised as high risk obstetrics, and the geneticist. I've
subsequently discovered that they are all members of the National Abortion
Federation and that two of them testified on the Partial Birth Appeal in NY.
The weeds of evil are deeply rooted.
was on a Wednesday afternoon that I received the news of a positive diagnosis
for Trisomy 18. I had hardly digested the news when the genetic counselor was
already leading me down the next step. I didn't want to hear a sales pitch
about the grief counseling that Exhale can provide me. At that point I was
still having a baby, albeit with some added concerns. I was in the "how do we
fix this?" mode rather than the "my child is dead" mode. I was STILL pregnant,
my child was STILL here, and at that point it had not entered the realm of
possibility that I would abort him. So I rushed her off the phone to do my own
Google search on what a Trisomy 18 diagnosis really meant. It angered me that
the medical establishment handled my emotions like a human factory production
line. I was not about to agree to undergo some psychobabble with a
pre-determined end conclusion.
you truly want to know where an organization's loyalties lie, follow the money
trial. If Exhale is a referral service for the medical establishment, then all
you're really doing is adding another layer of complexity to the deception that
will keep the medical establishment out of malpractice court. Medical
propaganda disguised in psychological terms whose purpose is to control the
individual's behavioral response. What a sad world we live in where even the
Hippocratic Oath, designed to protect humanity, has evolved into the medical
establishment's loss of humanity for the child, the parents and themselves.
far as e-cards are concerned, you have no idea how angry I get when I read or
hear someone tell me "how strong I am." How does aborting one's child represent
the epitome of strength? In my mind the opposite is true. I chose abortion
precisely because I was weak, lost hope, and lacked faith. The true heroes are
those who, knowing the diagnosis and ultimate outcome, could still choose life
and forge their way into the unknown. The best e-card I received was on Tommy's
first death anniversary from a woman I met at Rachel's Vineyard … "Tears are
Prayers too." Amen to that. Tears are all that's left when words and
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