A recent article in Cosmopolitan entitled, “Our Choice: How Abortion Changed Our Relationship,” by Liz Welch, detailed different scenarios to abortion situations and the resulting impact on relationships. Sad, but predictable, Welch's article only showed the outcomes acceptable to Cosmo's agenda.
Cecile Richards, President of Planned Parenthood, a huge abortion provider, is suddenly all for men, by saying how wonderful they are, being part of the abortion decision. But wait, aren’t the Cecile Richards of the world the ones who claim men have no say in an abortion decision? You know, “my body, my choice," and all that stuff? Well, I guess that is only if they disagree.
If they are good men and conform to the agenda, they, like someone trained, are praised. No surprise, for over 40 years men have been told they have no right to voice an opinion. As a result, sadly, I am sure in articles like Welch's they feel as though they are finally getting it right.
Suddenly men have become the "great protectors" in their eyes (or at least that is what they want them to think). “And yet, men rarely are asked about their experience — even though they likely bought the pregnancy test, shielded their girlfriend from protesters, held her hand during the procedure, or cared for her afterward. “
Planned Parenthood may rarely ask men about abortion, but we ask all the time. Our post abortion ministry has been helping men who have been involved in abortion for years. Yes, there are men like those in the four stories of Cosmo, but there are also men who coerce, threaten, abandon, and, just in case Planned Parenthood has not read the news, even kill women who refuse to abort. No mention of those outcomes in Cosmo's latest. There are also men who are tormented because they have no say, as their children die in abortion and those who do not even know of the pregnancy.
Cosmo's selective picking and choosing of abortion stories to tell to promote their agenda is not at all helpful to women or men.
Neither is the claim of “agenda free” counseling they refer people to. It sounds quite scary and irresponsible to offer "counseling" that allows a postabortive person to remain in whatever denial or rationalization about abortion - just so long as they don't go against the cause.
Let's Talk About It: There's no right or wrong way to feel after an abortion. If you or your partner need to talk, call the Exhale After-Abortion Talk Line for agenda-free counseling (866-4-EXHALE).
I feel like there should be another line there, such as, “so we can assist you in staying in denial.”
Abortion takes the life of an unborn child. It is true feelings are not right or wrong but there is a difference between the feelings and an act being right or wrong. All of the people in Welch's stories seem regretful even if they still think they made the right decision. If abortion is so right, why do they feel so wrong?
After working with post abortive people for over 20 years I can tell you, the truth is, people feel badly after abortion because it is not normal for us to kill our unborn children. We can justify and perhaps the circumstances would make us feel it was a necessary evil, but the truth remains, abortion terminates the life of a child, our child, and there is nothing right about that.
Should we judge? Of course not. Most people choose abortion because they feel they have to, but denying their feelings or aiding in rationalization does nothing to help them. Sooner or later they have to face the truth, so why not help them truly heal? "Agenda free" counseling is not very helpful in processing an event.
There should always be an agenda - and it is called healing.
Are you or someone you know suffering from the aftermath of an abortion? There is hope. There is healing. Visit the Lumina Website for more information.