One of the things you hear over and over again in the post abortion ministry from those who have aborted their children is, “I cannot believe I did this.” They are tortured by the fact that they have participated in the deaths of their own children, and they deny that fact to themselves and others. “How could I have done this?” “I paid for them to kill my child!”When the harsh truth sets in, and the confusion is gone, it is almost too much to bear. It is heartbreaking.
Today, we live in a society that wants to obliterate human imperfection. We act shocked if we fail at something, or fall short of a goal. We cover up truths, and brag about achievements as if these things define us. We attempt to control every aspect of our lives, in a sense, to be our own “gods.” This sad reality extends to society’s destructive attitude toward unborn children, whether they are “perfect” or not.
Lately, we have begun to hear more and more from a population of couples who aborted their “wanted” unborn child because of some perceived deficiency. More and more, doctors not only seem to encourage abortion, but are blatantly suggesting to parents that it would be selfish to give life to their children.
Turning the truth on its head, many are now calling infanticide a “compassionate” solution. What a loss to our society! The call to grow in love that these children would have brought to their families is being wiped away by this false sense of perfection. The love which is there to be given and received, is denied as we are encouraged to become more self centered.
As post abortive women and men move closer to being healed, they become capable of recognizing their own imperfections. They can accept the fact that they rejected the precious gift of life. But they also come to know that Jesus can transform their sense of deep loss. God’s perfection is finally acknowledged, and also His ability to bring good out of misery.
In His immense mercy, Jesus uses the very children who were aborted as the holy means to bring their parents and others to Him. Yes, God uses even our worst sins to help us. Imperfection can actually become a gift, knowing that all good comes from Him, and that without Him we are capable of doing so much harm.
May each suffering couple be healed by this love and united with their children in heaven, the only place where true perfection exists.
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There is hope. There is healing.