It is no secret that those in favor of abortion blame the stigma a countless different things; family, religion, society, anything but the mere fact that you have participated in the death of your very own child. They think if you talk about it, dance about it, blame it on others, deny the sin, refuse to admit it's adverse impact, etc. that somehow in time the stigma will be gone.
You cannot help but notice the anger and desperation in their acts. This wall of denial shields them from the truth of what they have done and attempts to justify and normalize it. Problem is after 44 years of supposed safe, legal abortion, it has not worked. Abortion is still as controversial if not more so, and the stigma has not lessened.
In some ways I think those post abortive on both sides of the issue are all looking to move from the stigma of what we did. Maybe because for so many it defines who they are in relation to themselves instead of being something they did. That is one thing we have in common, however, not only is our approach totally different, so are the results.
I have come to realize that I truly have been freed from the stigma of abortion. While I never will think my abortion was a good thing or okay in any circumstance, I also am keenly aware that I do not feel shame anymore. Others “opinions” and judgments of me have lost their power. It is hard to care what people think when you have been touched and freed by the mercy of God. It is not something you think, it is something you experience on a deeply personal level and no one can take it from you.
So how is this different? Instead of denying our sin we have acknowledged it and looked at the painful truth of what we have done. We have expressed our sorrow and repented. Like the prodigal son, we have returned to the Father whose mercy and forgiveness have embraced and loved us in spite of our terrible sin. Like the woman at the well, we have been amazed that Christ knows all we have done, and still offers His peace. The peace of Christ, the truth of Christ, the sacrifice of Christ on the cross, that is what has freed us from the stigma of abortion.
Try as they might for as long as they might, sadly the pro abortion crowd will never be freed from stigma no matter what new tactics they try. Sure they may harden their hearts so they feel nothing but anger, but the stigma will still be there.
We freed by Christ embrace on a spiritual level that which we rejected by sin and open our hearts to embrace the truth which set us free.