No question about it, I am so tired so-called “feminist” pro-abortion extremists who try to paint a picture of women based on their extreme denial and agendas. In fact, the only thing I may be more tired of is the media attention they get, resulting from their bizarre articles and statements. The latest example is Amanda Marcotte's "assessment" of Nicki Minaji’s abortion regret in her recent article for R.H. Reality Check, "Nicki Minaj and the Inevitable Politicization of Celebrity Abortions."
In a recent Rolling Stone interview, Nicki she speaks about her abortion as a young teenager.
Minaj's first love was an older guy from Queens she dated while attending the prestigious Manhattan performing-arts high school LaGuardia. When she discovered she was pregnant, "I thought I was going to die," she admits. "I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through." She ended up having an abortion, a decision, she says, has "haunted me all my life," "I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through." though it was the right choice for her at the time. "It'd be contradictory if I said I wasn't pro-choice. I wasn't ready. I didn't have anything to offer a child." She first rapped about the experience on a mixtape track called "Autobiography" she says she "didn't expect anyone to hear." Now the world is listening to every word she says very carefully: "Millions of people are gonna hear it. And you gotta watch everything you say — people find an issue with every f- thing."
Now, Amanda tries to tell us it is the pregnancy that Nicki regrets. That the abortion was her “cast,” the healing solution to a teen pregnancy she was not ready for. She tells us that the articles written about Nicki’s regret are instilling shame and guilt upon her. Nice try, but we women who have experienced abortion are not buying it anymore.
Of course, it was not the right time for a pregnancy and of course, I am sure, Nicki regrets getting pregnant. But, she clearly says, "I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through." She further adds that the abortion has haunted her all of her life. The abortion, not the pregnancy.
I have no doubt it was a very difficult decision for Nicki. She is no different from the thousands of other women I have spoken to over 20 years who are suffering because of a past abortion. Women who made the decision to abort because they felt it was the best "choice" for them at the time. However, women do not walk gleefully into an abortion clinic to be, as Amanda would like everyone to believe, “casted.” Women walk into clinics because they feel they have no choice. They are led to believe abortion is a solution, one that will solve their immediate problem. What they do not realize, thanks to people like Amanda, is that it is not the end at all. Far from it. The decision to abort and the ensuing, inevitable aftermath is carried with them for their entire lives.
I am sorry that Nicki had this experience, and I am sorry she is haunted. But, she is not alone. Shame and regret do not come from outside of us, but from the inside of us. As women, we are made to be nurturing and protective of our children. Abortion goes against our very nature, and no amount of talk or delusion is going to change that. Contrary to what Amanda would like us to believe, women do not want to be able to kill their children with no regret. What would that make us?
The good news is - hope and healing are possible, and you can work through the pain. Does it mean you will forget your unborn child? Of course, not, but who would want to? What it does mean is that you can find peace in your life again. You can come to understand what happened which will enable you to forgive others, forgive yourself, and ask forgiveness from your child.
A cast does not fix the break from an abortion; it is a break that haunts you all of your life, as Nicki shared. It is a break that cripples relationships and the ability to live life to the fullest. It seems to me that Amanda Marcotte is the one who is in desperate need of a "reality check." She is marching to the beat of her own drum, but no matter how hard she bangs that drum, she cannot drown out the truth or the reality for women.
Are you living in darkness and depression after an abortion?
Unable to get past the pain of your loss?
There is Hope. There is Healing. There is a way out of the darkness.
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