There is a saying that the Elliot Institute uses www.afterabortion.org , and I find to be so true, that many
women are socially aborted before they ever step foot into a clinic.
Threats of rejection by
boyfriends, spouses, family members and friends are often the motivating
factors in making the decision to abort. Thoughts of abandonment and alienation
by loved ones, often too painful to bear, make it seem easier to choose between
those familiar and an unborn child never seen, or belief that the child does
not even exist yet.
But, the reality of
abortion often sets in, with birthdays never celebrated, hugs never given or
received, anniversary dates, and an ever-present void filled with guilt, shame
and grief.
Social abortion however,
does not end with the death of the unborn child. As “OK” as abortion is suppose
to be, it carries a stigma. No one likes to speak of it unless it is in broad
terms…defense or objection to abortion itself, but the personal pain of
abortion is avoided like the plague. People are just not comfortable with it.
Inside their hearts everyone knows a life of an innocent has been taken.
Recently, I have gotten
into “discussions” with well meaning pro lifers who feel a need to remind those
of us who are post abortive of the severity of our sin. I have seen the use of
saying such as “abortion is homicide”, and “abortion is murder” do more harm
than good. Many find it condemning and judgmental. I have been chided for
speaking out against it, being told to be careful, I will “turn some pro lifers
off”. Little regard seems given for the souls those words are killing.
Sometimes the prevalent message still
seems to be “we know better than you…let us do this.” I have come to find that
is not true. The aborting of women by both sides is just as lethal, perhaps
even more so, because it kills the soul, the life source to living in heaven.
“Freaky Ally” wrote to me
tonce. She is a 15 years old, distraught over an abortion her mother
made her have. I kept thinking of Ally seeing the shirt “abortion is homicide”.
I think it would be enough to send her over the edge. No one needs to remind
her she killed her child. She lives with it each day. It is her baby that she
will never hold in this life.
I have also been told that
it is not the responsibility of pro lifers to guard speech for post abortive
people…they need to proclaim the evil of abortion. Perhaps they need to be
reminded of the magnitude of people abortion effects. Everyone knows
someone…everyone is touched…those post abortive are everywhere. While the evil
of abortion always needs to be proclaimed, the way in which it is, sometimes
needs to be looked at.
The killing of life can
come in all forms. Although abortion can never be justified and is always
wrong, the killing of hope or the life of a soul is also offensive to God.
Perhaps before passing judgment on others, we need to look at whom we are aborting in their hearts.
