Sometimes we can get so stuck on our own pain from abortion that our world becomes “self centered”.We become obsessed with thinking about it 24/7. Everything speaks to us about it. We can go over things in our head a million times and fill our lives with “if only’s”.
This constant focus on self Is not only unhealthy but it is not helpful. “Would have”, “could have”, “should haves” and “if only’s”, will get you nowhere, and addressing your abortion 24/7 will not make the pain leave any earlier. In fact it will most likely make things worse.
Instead, find a ministry or therapist that can help you work through your abortion.(If you cannot find one, call us and we will help 877-586-4621). Put your abortion/s in a box except when you are in a place where you will actually get help by learning of the dynamics, spiritual support, and an ear that can help you understand what happened. Some people fear that this will mean you are forgetting your baby. That is not true. You will still be dealing with it but in a healthy way in an environment where you can get actual help and clarification instead of just tormenting yourself.
In Matt25: 31-46,it speaks of helping others. Whenever you see yourself sinking into the habit of obsession, take your focus off of yourself by doing something for someone else. Not only will it help the other person but it will help you as well.
